Comments on In Good Faith: bringing home the bacon? or cooking the bacon?

That sounds like a good Smug Married arrangement t...

2012-01-21T15:49:23.061-05:00

That sounds like a good Smug Married arrangement to me, where you're both flexible enough to change as the situation warrants - and as personalities/Type As prefer.

The Anonymous Husband has always had the longer hours/better paycheck gig than me, so I did a bit more around the house pre-child than he did; now, of course, I'm officially the home CEO. That being said, he was (and is) the better cook and enjoys that, so he'd make dinner most nights pre-kid and still cooks on the weekend now. We've never really sat down & organized chores, funny enough, but it has worked out somehow over time.

This is really interesting... I've talked abou...

2012-01-13T20:10:11.560-05:00

This is really interesting... I've talked about this with some of my other newly married friends as well. When I was looking for a job this past year, I was seriously in such a funk. Not having a job was fun for like 3 weeks, and then it was terrible. I haaattttteeee doing stuff around the house. I do it, obviously, because it has to be done and J thinks cleaning the shower every 6 months is totally all you need to do, but I don't like cleaning or doing laundry or even cooking, really. And I really did not want to get into a pattern where J was working and I was the one doing everything for the house because being a "housewife" is my worst nightmare. (Seriously, even the word is so ridiculous.) So I got lazy too, but it was because I felt like I had nothing to look forward to, nothing to wake up for every day, nothing to really contribute. It was a really hard thing for both us. Now that I've finally found a job, we are both much, much happier. Plus, with two incomes, we can afford to have someone come do the really horrible jobs like scrubbing baseboards and cleaning ceiling fans. :)

I'd say we are pretty equal on most fronts but...

2012-01-13T13:25:32.000-05:00

I'd say we are pretty equal on most fronts but I take on more of the cleaning than he does.

My husband & I have traditionally been the sam...

2012-01-13T10:38:32.783-05:00

My husband & I have traditionally been the same way-always doing our share, and never putting the burden on one of us. However, like your situation, our roles shift depending on what's going on. When I was studying for the bar, my husband did everything. It was glorious. I definitely got used to it and became pretty lazy. Now that he's in school & also working (grad school, studying to be a registered dietician), I've taken on more of the housework. And like you, I actually really like it. Even though I refuse to be a 1950's housewife ;)